"And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." — Ephesians 4:32 (KJV)
The short answer
The Bible treats kindness not as mere niceness but as active goodwill that mirrors God's own heart. It forgives, it gives, it stoops to help — even toward the undeserving. Kindness is fruit the Spirit grows in us, anchored in Ephesians 4:32 and Luke 6:35.
Kindness can sound like a small, soft virtue — something pleasant but optional. Scripture thinks otherwise. In the Bible, kindness is love made practical: it forgives real wrongs, it gives without keeping score, and it reaches toward the very people the world overlooks. Its pattern is God Himself, who is kind to the ungrateful and merciful to the poor. Below are eight passages, quoted exactly from the King James Version, gathered around the questions a caring heart actually asks.
How does God want us to treat one another?
Scripture ties kindness directly to how God has treated us. We are asked to hand on the mercy we have received, wearing kindness like a garment we deliberately put on.
"And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." — Ephesians 4:32 (KJV)
Kindness here is bound up with forgiveness — it is tenderhearted rather than thin-skinned. The measure is stunning: we forgive "even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven" us. Kindness flows downhill from the grace we ourselves have been shown.
"Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;" — Colossians 3:12 (KJV)
To "put on" kindness makes it a choice, like clothing we deliberately wear. Paul lists it among a whole wardrobe of gentleness — mercy, humility, meekness, patience — the everyday character of people who know they are loved by God.
Why should I be kind?
The Bible gives kindness both a near reason and a high one: it does good to your own soul, and it makes you look like your heavenly Father.
"The merciful man doeth good to his own soul: but he that is cruel troubleth his own flesh." — Proverbs 11:17 (KJV)
Kindness is not only a gift to others; it quietly heals the one who gives it. Cruelty, by contrast, corrodes the person who carries it. What we sow toward others we tend to reap within ourselves.
"But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil." — Luke 6:35 (KJV)
This is kindness at its most radical — extended to enemies, without expecting anything back. The reason Jesus gives is the character of God: He "is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil." To love like that is to resemble Him.
What does kindness look like in action?
Scripture never leaves kindness as a vague warm feeling. It spells out the behavior — patient, unselfish, merciful, just — and ties it to a life God actually requires.
"Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up," — 1 Corinthians 13:4 (KJV)
In the King James Version love is called "charity," and its very first two marks are patience and kindness. Real kindness "suffereth long" — it bears with people — and it refuses envy and pride. It is love that has learned to wait and to serve.
"He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?" — Micah 6:8 (KJV)
Kindness is folded into what God requires: "to love mercy." It is not an extra credit for the especially good-natured, but part of the plain, everyday obedience God looks for — justice, mercy, and humility walked out together.
Does kindness to others reach God?
Scripture makes a startling promise: kindness shown to the least is received by God as if done to Him, and grown in us by His own Spirit.
"He that hath pity upon the poor lendeth unto the LORD; and that which he hath given will he pay him again." — Proverbs 19:17 (KJV)
Kindness to the poor is counted as a loan to God Himself — and no one is ever the poorer for it. Nothing given in mercy is lost; the Lord takes personal responsibility to "pay him again."
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith," — Galatians 5:22 (KJV)
Where modern translations name "kindness" and "goodness" in this list, the King James Version reads "gentleness, goodness" — the same tender quality of heart. Either way, it is fruit of the Spirit, grown as we abide in God rather than forced by willpower alone.
Frequently asked questions
What does the Bible say kindness looks like?
Biblical kindness is love in action, not merely a pleasant mood. Paul describes it plainly: Charity suffereth long, and is kind (1 Corinthians 13:4, KJV) — patient, unselfish, gentle. It shows itself in being kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another (Ephesians 4:32, KJV), and in doing good even to those who cannot repay, for God Himself is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil (Luke 6:35, KJV).
Why is kindness important to God?
Kindness reflects God's own character, so it stands near the heart of what He asks of us. Micah sums up true religion as to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God (Micah 6:8, KJV). And Scripture promises that kindness to the vulnerable is never wasted: He that hath pity upon the poor lendeth unto the LORD (Proverbs 19:17, KJV). To be kind is to resemble the Father and to serve Him at the same time.
"But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil." — Luke 6:35 (KJV)
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